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Written by: Missy Young, Counselor

We are who God, our creator says we are. Not what we say we are, not what our parents told us, not what others think about us.

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. Sometimes we grow up full of self-thinking that we can conquer the world, and others grow up thinking they are unloved and can’t do anything right. ����Either way, we tend to focus on ourselves.  We live in a self-esteemed world-pumped up with “self”. Occupied with “self”, taking selfies and getting mad if not enough people “liked” them.

Humble is a ���do” thing, not a ���be” thing. Certain things are action words but the world considers them feelings/beings.  Love and humility are the biggest misconceptions.

Confidence is a “know” thing. You have to know “who” you are and “who’s” you are. We are shaped by who loves us and who we want to love us. Christians often go around acting as if they are not loved. They forget the goodness of God in their lives and how many times He has proven faithful. It is hard to remember God’s love when we are struggling or hurting. When we don’t have an answer we freak out, thinking God doesn’t care about us. We forget He can be trusted and His promises are true. If we obey He will bless us and provide all we need.

Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you (1 Peter 5:5–6, ESV).

Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine” (Isaiah 43:1, ESV).

God formed us like a builder designs and builds a house or akid colors a pic, or a potter molds the clay. This was personal!! God may have spoken the universe into existence, but He formed you. He did not just make your life and bring you into existence; He is forming the kind of person you are becoming day by day. God is making you into who He wants you to be. His love for us is divine and it is an expensive love because it cost Christ His life. He showed us how to live and Jesus knew who He was.

What we think about ourselves (good or bad), can’t be trusted! Ask a woman who is dying of anorexia and she truly believes she isfat. Ask an addict and he will tell you he needs another high/drink. Ask an abused person and they might tell you that it was their own fault they wereabused. Ask a person how ��they know they are saved, and they might say they go to church, volunteer, and give money.  Jeremiah 17:9 says, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?”

It’s hard enough to admit we need God; what’s even harder is to live like we need Him. Successes in life can cripple us spiritually when we begin to view ourselves as self-sufficient. When we rely on our money, talent, family, or hard work to fix everyday problems, we don’t feel like we need God. Ask the people of Israel about this kind of pride. God’s presence demanded awe and they yawned.

The good news is He delivers exactly what we’re desperate for in our weakest moments. “He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might, He increases strength” (40:29)

Yet some claim they don���t need the Lord. Followers of Christ face a choice: flirt with your perceived self-sufficiency until disaster comes, or admit your desperation without Him. When trouble comes, do you rely on yourself or depend on God? Do you take matters into your own hands or wait forGod’s provision in His timing?

Everyone needs the Lord. The sooner you learn this, the more you experience His power and strength.

Sometimes my own thoughts will try to convince me that I don’t measure up. But God doesn’t just see what you are, He sees what you can become. He gives us a new name and a new reputation.

John 13 records a poignant story. Jesus—the Son of God, theKing of the universe—strips off His outer garments, wraps a towel around His waist, and kneels before His disciples (read: His students, His followers) to wash their dirty, smelly feet. Knowing full well that within a matter of hours one would betray Him and the others would desert Him, still He knelt andserved.

When we read the foot-washing story, we have to wonder, how did He do that? How did Jesus, the Highest One, lower Himself to the place of the lowest servant? How did the Best One kneel and wash twenty-four, dirty, stinky, undeserving feet?

John 13:3 reveals Jesus��� secret—a deep, unshakable sense of authority and identity. He had the big picture. He knew everything was under His control. He knew His identity and His Father’s. In order to humble yourself to serve like Jesus, you’re going to need the same perspective.

Our outcome is assured if we trust in God’s promises and His power.  Everyone struggles with insecurity. Attempts to ignore it, hide it, or power up over it will all prove to fail.  In the book of Exodus, God spelled it out for a really insecure man named Moses. This was a guy who (like all of us) felt the gap between his abilities and what God was calling him to do. “Not me, Lord. Find someone qualified to do this job. I can���t even string a sentence together!” So what was God’s plan for Moses? That He, Jehovah God, the great “I AM”, would go before him.  Focusing on the Lord’s strength is a game changer. What are you missing out on because you���re concerned about your weaknesses? Are you letting insecurity keep you from God�����s calling on your life? There’s never been a better time to get out of the nervous, self-conscious, I-don’t-think-I-can-do-this attitude.

Jesus knew where He came from and where He was going. It was an unshakable identity. So, who are you? If you’re a follower of Christ, God says you are:

Loved. You are loved by God more than you could possibly imagine. His eyes are always upon you (Isaiah 49:16). He knows the exact numberof days of your life (Psalm 139:16). He numbers the hairs on your head (Luke12:7). He saves your tears in a bottle (Psalm 56:8). You are deeply, deeply loved by God.

Accepted. Even if you never really fit in with your in-laws, you aren’t part of the inner circle at work, you have a hard time connecting at church—God accepts you. With all of your peculiarities and quirks, you’re “in” with the one who made the universe. In Christ, you are His beloved child. He picked us and predestined us to live for Him in victory. Remember waiting to be picked in school for a kick ball team? You didn’t want to be last. Or the kidthat isn’t even picked and just knows what team he is on because there is nobody left on the fence? This feels terrible. But God���s choosen can hold their heads up because of who He says we are and the fact that we are His chosen people, a royal priesthood.

Victorious. If you’re struggling with your identity or are hurting and really down on yourself, read Romans 8. You are a conqueror, and nothing—NOTHING—can separate you from God���s love (Romans 8:37���39).

How much differently would you approach life if you saw yourself as God sees you? Set aside your insecurities and embrace the reality of who you are in Christ: loved, accepted, victorious. To know who you are in Christ is such an awesome thing—it’s what allows you to humble yourself. Because of your unshakable identity, you too can serve as Jesus did.

As you navigate your day, look for opportunities to serve. In your home or workplace, when someone needs to do the grunt work, why not you? After all, you have nothing to prove—you’re proven. You don�����t have to fret over what others think or waste energy wondering about your worth. You don���t have to self-consciously wonder if serving demeans you—you are wholly, deeply, completely loved and accepted.

Jesus is the reason you can be the head and not the tail, above and not beneath (Duet. 28:13), He is the reason you are blessed to be a blessing!!!