Client Profiles: Cutting

Client Profiles:

Below you will find a client’s profile from this week.  We include it to help you to understand the situations we face every day.  This unnamed woman is 30 years old and she came to us because she was depressed.  She has been cutting herself to relieve her pain and to “feel something again.”  She assures her female counselor that she does not want to die.  She arrives for her first appointment wearing dirty clothes that are overly revealing.  She is from Bloomsburg but could have been from any neighboring town or village.

Our anonymous client is dating a 20 year old man and wants to get pregnant.  She was pregnant once before but had a miscarriage.  She seems angry and has a hard time focusing on her own issues during counseling.  She would rather talk about everyone else’s problems than her own.

Please pray for this woman and for the Center of Hope as we give her Biblical Counseling.

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Therefore I Have Hope

Jonah is down and out.  Chapter two finds him at the bottom of the sea with seaweed wrapped around his head while in the belly of a great fish.  Circumstances do not get much more dire that that.  Yet Jonah had hope.

Wait.

What?

That’s right, In Jonah 2:4b he tells God, “I have been banished from your sight; yet I will look again toward your holy temple.” How does he figure he is going to do that?  At this point he doesn’t even know up from down.  And again in 2:6-7 Jonah says to God, “…But you, Lord my God, brought my life up from the pit. When my life casino online was ebbing away, I remembered you, Lord, and my prayer rose to you, to your holy temple.”

Where did Jonah get the faith to pray to God and expect his prayer to be answered?  He knew God that’s why he had hope.  This reminds me of Jeremiah who wrote in Lamentations 3:21-23, “Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.”

Do you have hope today?  You do if you know God.  With God there is always hope.  There was hope for the Ninehevites who repented at the last possible moment.  There was hope for Jonah who rebelled against God.  There is hope for you because God has great love for you.  He is the God of second chances and third chances and beyond.

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Are You Running From God?

Jonah 1:3a, “But Jonah ran away from the Lord.”  Why?  I know he didn’t like his enemies in Ninevah and he had some reasonable hesitancy toward those who had attacked his homeland.  However, he wasn’t running away from the Assyrians he was running away from the Lord.  At the end of the third verse it repeats this thought, “he went aboard and sailed for Tarshish to flee from the Lord.”  In the Hebrew it literally means to run from the face of God.

Jonah obviously knew the Lord being one of his prophets.  He studied the OT and when he prayed in the belly of the great fish, he quoted many passages of Scripture.  So again, why did he have such distaste for the Lord that he wanted to flee his presence?  What was going on in his heart?  What was going on spiritually behind the scenes?

How did Jonah see God?  He says to God in Jonah 4:2, “I knew that you are a gracious and compassionate God, slow to anger and abounding in love…”  Why then would he want to flee from his presence? However, before you judge Jonah too harshly consider whether you ever tried to run away from God.

We know that God is good all the time but sometimes we want to keep him at arm’s length.  We like to do what we want to do and we don’t want to be reminded that God doesn’t approve.  We don’t want to see God’s face at certain times when we just want to do what we want to do.  After all God will forgive us and except us back into the fold when the times comes.

But God was not finished with Jonah.  Just because he was running from him, God’s love for him didn’t let him get away.  God pursued Jonah and when God pursues you there is no place to hide.  Most people today don’t bother getting on a ship or even a plane; instead they just pretend that God presence isn’t there.  Since God is not visible, it is easy for us to 2016 robe de mode de bal. Que vous assister au banquet de mariage. Il ya le meilleur choix pour l’obtention du diplôme de bal. Habiller comme vous pouvez choisir de magasiner en ligne. Pas cher et pratique. Nos robes de bal sont faits sur mesure, le prix est pas cher du tout. Et le style est le même
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HOW TO PROVOKE YOUR CHILD TO WRATH

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Eph. 4:6 tells fathers not to provoke your children to wrath.  What does that mean exactly?  Dr. Wayne Mack has listed 34 descriptive statements identifying what we should avoid if we do not want to provoke our children.  Circle one or two that you want to stop doing.

HOW TO PROVOKE YOUR CHILD TO WRATH

1.  Spoil him & give him everything he wants.

2.  Never spank your child.

3.  Let him express himself any way he feels like doing.

4.  Don”t run his life; let him run yours.

5.  Don”t enforce household rules.

6.  Don”t bother him with chores.  Do them for him.

7.  Give in when he throws a temper tantrum.

8.  Give him a big allowance and never make him do anything for it.

9.  Foster his dependence on you.

10. Make all his decisions for him.

11. Always bail him out of trouble; solve his problem; cover up for him.

12. Criticize others openly and routinely in his presence.

13. Make excuses for your own faults; blame your circumstances or other people.

14. Yell, shout, use abusive, demeaning, derogatory speech toward him.

15. Punish him with pouting sulking, tears or silence.

16. Never allow him to disagree.

17. Criticize him constantly, never praise him, or if you do, praise him for his performance and appearence, not for his character and attitude.

18. Complain about how much you are sacrificing to raise him.

19. Fight often with your mate; never solve online slots problems – avoid them or insist on having your own way; call your mate names let a child see a bad marriage in operation.

20. Threaten divorce or run away whenever you have a problem with your mate; communicate despair and a message that God is not sufficient and has no solutions to problems.

21. Never hug him or show any genuine warmth.

22. Promise you”ll do things, but make excuses when the time comes.

23. Take sides with him against your mate.

24. Be a domineering, overbearing husband or a passive, weak, non-communicative husband whose wife runs the family.

25. Be a cold, impersonal, domineering, nagging, pushy, manipulative wife.

26. Demand perfection from your child, don”t tolerate mistakes.

27. Talk all the time, never listen to what your child has to say.

28. Avoid relationships with people, don”t let him see you enjoying contacts with people.

29. Take extreme positions; act impulsively and impetuously; rely on your feelings.

30. Make a lot of rules about trivial things.

31. Have double standards or moving standards.

32. Practice making mountains out of mole hills; never overlook a fault; never let an issue die.

33. Keep yourself extremely busy; be a workaholic, never relax, play, or be frivolous.

34. Talk about Christ, the Bible, prayer, the church, but live as if Christ and these things are of secondary importance.

 

Jim Thornton,

Director-Counselor, Center of Hope

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Look in the Mirror for the Real You


These thoughts were written by my good friend, Barry Borrows.  He passed away unexpectedly on May 29, 2013.  He was a Godly man with great wisdom so I pass this along to you.  He writes:

When I looked in the mirror this morning my first instinct was to turn aside from the reflection I saw looking back at me there. But the presence of Christ within my heart helped me to look beyond the veil of my earthly being, and in that moment of deep humility I gave God praise because for an instant I was able to see the real me.

1 Peter 2:9 But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.

Before your heart started to pump life-giving blood through your veins, and your lungs breathed air for the very first time you were known by God. He uniquely and purposefully shaped and formed you into his likeness, and he did so with joy in his heart and a smile upon his face. He has always loved the real you and he always will. He never desired that you be any more or any less than what he has so lovingly created you to be. When you came into this world you were naked and he clothed you, you were hungry and he fed you, you were vulnerable and he provided a sanctuary. But as you grew and matured the evils of this world started to shape and form within your heart a very different picture of who you were. And in the weakness of your earthly flesh you have succumbed to the lies and deception that have become so much apart of who you believe that you are. But there deep inside your very soul, you can hear the still small voice of the real you yearning to be free. You can sense the battle that rages within the deepest recesses of your heart, and you long to raise the banner of your true image in Christ high for all to see.

“I have come to set the captives free“, Jesus proclaimed in his word, and when the Son sets you free you are free indeed. The time has come for the real you and the real me to be set free to do God’s will upon this earth. It is time to let our hearts be aligned with the heart of Christ so that a multitude can be loved and accepted for who they really are. The captives are not free because the Body of Christ has not submitted itself to God’s will in the matter, corporately or individually. We have allowed ourselves to keep one another in bondage to our sins and past lives, and we have not released this burden from one another. It takes a great deal of love to love the real you and the real me, but praise be to God, that he has more than a sufficient amount of that holy medicine to go around.

It is time to stand in front of the mirrors of our lives and love the person you see standing there. It is time to wrap your arms around the dying and wounded souls that surround you every day, and pour into their hearts the medicine of God’s love. The real you is a truly amazing and wonderful creation. The real you is a delight to God, and it brings great glory and honor to his name. The real you is fearfully and wonderfully made in his image. In humility you can raise your head up high and shout out to the whole world that you are wonderful because God is wonderful.

This is where the battles will be won in your life because it is vital that you come to truly understand the value God has placed upon the real you. It is vital that you know your truth worth. There is nothing in all creation that can separate you from God but you. Let today be the day that you will allow the Christ in you to accept and love the real you. Let today be the day that you cry out to God and say; “THIS CAPTIVE HAS BEEN SET FREE…..!!!”

For God’s glory and for his namesake. Amen

Psalm 139: 14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

 

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Gladys the Grapefruit gets Counseling

Gladys the grapefruit    Gladys came in for counseling and one of her problems was poor self-esteem.  She was overly concerned about her appearance especially how large she was.  Her skin was thin and light and she was upset because she bruised easily.  Gladys did what she could to look good but felt underappreciated.

She was always comparing herself to oranges and this made her a little sour.  After all oranges were smaller, did not bruise as easily and their PR people are second to none.  Everybody likes oranges she announced.  Oranges have Hollywood stars and commercials bragging about how great they are.  Some oranges even have navels.   “I wish I had a navel,” she said.

I told Gladys that she was wonderfully made and tried to explain to her that God had made her in a special way for a special purpose.  She didn’t want to hear that.  I told her about how God had provided sun and rain and nutrients to build her up and help to accomplish the tasks for which God created her.  Again she was not impressed.  She insisted, “The sun shines on all fruit and the rain falls on everyone even grapes.” When she said, “grapes” with such distaste, I asked her what she had against grapes.  She was thoughtful for a while and then admitted, “I guess I am a little jealous of grapes. “  “Why’s that,” I asked.  “They are never alone like me; they always hang out in clusters. They are so little and cute and cozy with one another.  People like them even after they are all dried up and wrinkled.”  Do you think people are going to like me when I am old and wrinkled?   I’ll be a trash heap faster than you can say compost.”

So do you see yourself at the bottom of the fruit chain, Gladys?  “Heavens no” she replied, “that is reserved for tomatoes.”  She continued, “Most people don’t even know tomatoes are a fruit and talk about thin skinned.” I didn’t want her to start in on another fruit so I stopped her there and explained to Gladys that the Bible says it is foolish to compare ourselves with others because God created each of us uniquely.

“God,” she yelled, “what does he have to do with it?”    Where was God when I was growing up, and spent all those cold nights trying to keep from freezing to death?  “Was that rough,” I asked.  Gladys replied, “I don’t like to talk about it; I don’t even like to think about it.”  Trying to lighten the mood, I explained to Gladys that you should never tell a counselor there is something that you don’t want to talk about because it is like waving a red flag in front of a bull.  I don’t think she understood my humor but she did continue to tell me about one particularly cold night.

“It was the middle of February and the wind came down from the north and I had no place to hide, and no way to protect myself. It was so cold I could hardly keep my sections together.  Then to make matters worse my caretaker sprayed cold water on me, can you believe it?  Ice was forming around me almost encasing me.  I was so mad at God and that caretaker.  Why couldn’t God just change the direction of the wind and solve my problems?  I will never forgive him for that.”

Is that why you are so sour I asked, and then answered myself, that is why you are so sour.   God was not trying to hurt you.  He sent the caretaker to place a coat of ice over you to keep you from dying.  God saved your life that night because he does care about you.

Our hour was about up and I could see I had a grape nut in the waiting room.  Gladys I said, we’ll pick this up next week but I want you to read some scriptures before our next session and we will discuss them.  Read, Ps. 139:14, Eph. 2:10 and 2 Cor. 10:12.

 

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Statistics of Seasonal Affective Disorder

It’s a SAD time of the year-Seasonal Affective Disorder affects many.  Stay tuned this week to find out more about the onset of depression during the winter season.   Here are some statistics about SAD:

About 5-20% are affected by this disorder.

The average age that people begin to be affected by this is 23.

SAD is 4 times more likely in women than men.

Statistics taken from (medicinenet.com)

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Signs of Depression

 

Written by Counselor, Lynne Ney

Using commonly referred to  Beck’s Depression Inventory

There are times when we all feel “blah.” We just can’t get out of the rut of feeling down or sad.  Many people experience this period but within a few days they are bouncing back.  But what about those who do not “bounce back” -the ones that stay “stuck?” The feelings last for weeks, perhaps months.  This can be depression.  Depression is defined as sadness, gloom, dejection. These feelings interfere with everyday life.  Some types of depression run in families. But depression can also occur if you have no family history of the illness. Anyone can develop depression, even kids (A.D.A.M. Medical Encyclopedia).  Depression is experienced differently according to the individual, but there are some consistent symptoms that can determine if you have depression.

Beck’s Depression Inventory

This depression inventory can be self-scored. Circle the appropriate number to where you are right now.  The scoring scale is at the end of the questionnaire.

1.

0    I do not feel sad.

1    I feel sad

2    I am sad all the time and I can’t snap out of it.

3    I am so sad and unhappy that I can’t stand it.

 

2.

0    I am not particularly discouraged about the future.

1    I feel discouraged about the future.

2    I feel I have nothing to look forward to.

3    I feel the future is hopeless and that things cannot improve.

 

3.

0    I do not feel like a failure.

1    I feel I have failed more than the average person.

2    As I look back on my life, all I can see is a lot of failures.

3    I feel I am a complete failure as a person.

 

4.

0    I get as much satisfaction out of things as I used to.

1    I don’t enjoy things the way I used to.

2    I don’t get real satisfaction out of anything anymore.

3    I am dissatisfied or bored with everything.

 

5.

0    I don’t feel particularly guilty

1    I feel guilty a good part of the time.

2    I feel quite guilty most of the time.

3    I feel guilty all of the time.

 

6.

0    I don’t feel I am being punished.

1    I feel I may be punished.

2    I expect to be punished.

3    I feel I am being punished.

 

7.

0    I don’t feel disappointed in myself.

1    I am disappointed in myself.

2    I am disgusted with myself.

3    I hate myself.

 

8.

0    I don’t feel I am any worse than anybody else.

1    I am critical of myself for my weaknesses or mistakes.

2    I blame myself all the time for my faults.

3    I blame myself for everything bad that happens.

 

9.

0    I don’t have any thoughts of killing myself.

1    I have thoughts of killing myself, but I would not carry them out.

2    I would like to kill myself.

3    I would kill myself if I had the chance.

 

10.

0    I don’t cry any more than usual.

1    I cry more now than I used to.

2    I cry all the time now.

3    I used to be able to cry, but now I can’t cry even though I want to.

 

11.

0    I am no more irritated by things than I ever was.

1    I am slightly more irritated now than usual.

2    I am quite annoyed or irritated a good deal of the time.

3    I feel irritated all the time.

 

12.

0    I have not lost interest in other people.

1    I am less interested in other people than I used to be.

2    I have lost most of my interest in other people.

3    I have lost all of my interest in other people.

 

13.

0    I make decisions about as well as I ever could.

1    I put off making decisions more than I used to.

2    I have greater difficulty in making decisions more than I used to.

3    I can’t make decisions at all anymore.

 

14.

0    I don’t feel that I look any worse than I used to.

1    I am worried that I am looking old or unattractive.

2    I feel there are permanent changes in my appearance that make me look

unattractive

3    I believe that I look ugly.

 

15.

0    I can work about as well as before.

1    It takes an extra effort to get started at doing something.

2    I have to push myself very hard to do anything.

3    I can’t do any work at all.

 

16.

0 I can sleep as well as usual.

1 I don’t sleep as well as I used to.

2 I wake up 1-2 hours earlier than usual and find it hard to get back to sleep.

3 I wake up several hours earlier than I used to and cannot get back to sleep.

 

17.

0    I don’t get more tired than usual.

1    I get tired more easily than I used to.

2    I get tired from doing almost anything.

3    I am too tired to do anything.

 

18.

0    My appetite is no worse than usual.

1    My appetite is not as good as it used to be.

2    My appetite is much worse now.

3    I have no appetite at all anymore.

 

19.

0    I haven’t lost much weight, if any, lately.

1    I have lost more than five pounds.

2    I have lost more than ten pounds.

3    I have lost more than fifteen pounds.

 

20.

0    I am no more worried about my health than usual.

1    I am worried about physical problems like aches, pains, upset stomach, or constipation.

2    I am very worried about physical problems and it’s hard to think of much else.

3    I am so worried about my physical problems that I cannot think of anything else.

 

21.

0    I have not noticed any recent change in my interest in sex.

1    I am less interested in sex than I used to be.

2    I have almost no interest in sex.

3    I have lost interest in sex completely.

INTERPRETING THE BECK DEPRESSION INVENTORY

Now that you have completed the questionnaire, add up the score for each of the twenty-one questions. Then you can evaluate your depression according to the table below.

Total Score______________

 

Levels of Depression

1-10____________________These ups and downs are considered normal

11-16___________________ Mild mood disturbance

17-20___________________Borderline clinical depression

21-30___________________Moderate depression

31-40___________________Severe depression

over 40__________________Extreme depression

 

IF YOU HAVE ANY CONCERNS, PLEASE CONTACT CENTER OF HOPE FOR COUNSELING AT 570.275.2280

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Do You and Depression Know Each Other?

Click here to watch a video with encouraging verses for depression

Is there a person in your life that makes you want to run whenever they come your way, or weighs you down with their negativity?   If you”ve ever experienced depression, you know it”s kind of like that “friend”.  Now that the rush of the holiday season is over, the cold weather is here to stay for a couple months, and the kids are back in school, it”s easy for that uninvited emotional slump to start it”s banter at your door.

Getting out of the seasonal depression or keeping it at an arms length isn”t  as easy as reading two Bible verses and skipping on your way.  However, actively engaging ourselves can improve the state of mind. When we do things like helping others and exercise we feel energized.  When we submerge ourselves in His Word and experiencing God”s love through His words to us, we start on the right path.

But sometimes, extra measures are needed because the depression isn”t necessarily a spiritual or emotional  problem.  It is often a physical or chemical issue.  Counseling can be another step in the journey.  How will Center of Hope help someone struggling online casino with seasonal depression? COH”s counselors will listen.   David Augsburger once said that “Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.”  The counselor”s concern for the person will come through as they sit and listen without judgment to what the client(s) have to  say.  Our counselor”s  won”t preach but will give guidance from Scripture when the client is ready.  We don”t believe that shoving the Gospel down someone”s throat will accomplish the desired outcome, but sharing truth and hope given through Christ”s power can.

If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, please contact us.  We want to help.  Call us today 570.275.2280

Encouraging words from Lamentations 3:22-26, 54-58

22 Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed,
for his compassions never fail.
23 They are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.
24 I say to myself, “The Lord is my portion;
therefore I will wait for him.

25 The Lord is good to those whose hope is in him,
to the one who seeks him;
26 it is good to wait quietly
for the salvation of the Lord.
27 It is good for a man to bear the yoke
while he is young.

54 the waters closed over my head, and I thought I was about to perish.

55 I called on your name, Lord,
from the depths of the pit.
56 You heard my plea: “Do not close your ears
to my cry for relief.”
57 You came near when I called you,
and you said, “Do not fear.”
58 You, Lord, took up my case;
you redeemed my life.
Devotional written by Tammie Belles
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Verses for the New Year

2 Corinthians 5:17  Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

Isaiah 43:18 – 43:19  Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness
and rivers in the desert.

Lamentations 3:22 – 3:24  The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.“The Lord is my portion,” says my soul, “therefore I will hope in him.”

Ecclesiastes 3:11  He has made everything beautiful in its time. Also, he has put eternity into man’s heart, yet so that he cannot find out what God has done from the beginning to the end.

2 Chronicles 7:14  If my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land.

Hebrews 12:1-2  Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us,  looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.

Romans  12: 1, 2   I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

Taken from the ESV Bible

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